Don Tripp- Letter to my son

I love this record. Don Tripp is incredible. I know it's Mother's Day tomorrow and this is probably more so a Father's Day day song but it just crossed my mind...

As it is a Mother's Day, I hope all Moms are reflecting on themselves and making sure that they are doing all that they can be to be a GREAT mom! That means including the kid's fathers not holding your kid hostage because "you're mad". As a mother, if you and your child's father didn't work out but he wants to be a father, let him be.

Being mature and having the ability to compromise is the best gift you could give your kid. But now, if you're child's father is acting more like a sperm donor, fuck him! =)

I can't speak too much on the subject because I'm not a parent. But I've seen it on both ends, fathers with evil baby mothers and mothers with sperm donor-cryin for sympathy with the "she won't let me see my kid cause I don't wanna be with her" fathers and the it's all jacked because a child is involved.

The biggest lesson I take from all of this is what NOT to do and always remembering that your child is first, period!

That's all =)

Hotel Chevalier

This to me is the definition of love, hurt, and being brave enough to try again. Incredibly beautiful =)

10 Cool/Odd facts & story about Tony Allen Sr.

No real reason for this blog. Just thinkin about my father. He's hilarious.

Video of my dad explaining One Life to Live LOL

1. I only talk to him after midnight.
2. He watches One Life to Live FAITHFULLY! He'll be late to work just to watch it.
3. He's legally married, but has a girlfriend and they know about each other.
4. He's responsible for my disgust of BBQ.
5. He decided to grow cornrows after he turned 40+
6. He just recently learned how to text message lol
7. Including my mom, he's never actually had to approach any woman. They all approached him. He played the shy and quiet guy well, but in actuality...
8. He stutters... A LOT! Lol
9. He thinks I'm supposed to help him take care of my brothers and sisters cause I'm the oldest because...
10. He smokes those tweeds, but he calls them "cigarettes" lol

So Pops has 5 baby moms... A month ago or so, we had a debate about who is prettiest. Naturally (and not because I was on the phone with him) #1 was my mom and my list was:

1. Kay (Me and Tony's mom)
2. Tie between Tamara (my step-mom Anthony & Robbie's mom, his wife) Lana (T'ana's mom)
4. Pam aka Bulletwound (T'era's mom, his girlfriend)
5. Magnolia (Darvell's mom)

He says

1. My mom
2. Tamara
3. Pam
4. Lana
5. Magnolia

The debate is really just between Pam and Lana. I'm not a big fan of Pam period. She went after my father knowing he was married and I can't respect that period and it took a lot for me to get over that resentment for him doing that to my step-mom.

But at the end of the day, you really can't help or change the actions of people. You just have to learn to adjust and live.

At any rate, he's been through A LOT with Lana but he said Pam over Lana only because "Lana has no hips, Pam has hips and ass" verbatim. But Pam looks like she's Martin did when Tommy Hearns beat him up LOL

I'm exaggerating of course but I swear it's almost similar. Lana is actually really pretty and she did a pretty good job taking care of Tony and I during her time with my dad. I only pick Tamara with her because Tamara went above and beyond to take care of Tony and I and I have a huge respect for her.

I guess my ranking is based more on the person they are, rather than looks. Tamara and Lana were more moms to me than the others were. Well Pam could never be and Magnolia is a crackhead... Like for real, a bonafied crack head.

Pops doesn't like me calling Pam his girlfriend, bullet wound. I told him soon as he gets a divorce and cuts off his damn braids, we could talk lol. He hasn't agreed yet lol

             From L to R: Me, T'ana, T'era, My dad, Tony, Anthony & Robbie (Darvell missing) circa 2010

Gotta love him =)

Currently On Repeat: Edition 1

I have the tendency to get stuck on certain songs for a long time and just replay them over and over for a certain amount of time. This is the most current ones...

Still Standing- Pharoahe Monch
This record speaks to me on SO many levels! It's just what it says. Still Standing despite all adversities, you're still standing! Not to mention Pharoahe captured the energy in the music that makes you feel all sorts of powerful even after going through so much in your life... my life.

Make Yours A Happy Home- Gladys Knight & The Pips
I went to a Raphael Saadiq show 4/15 and the DJ played this record while we were waiting for him to come out. I shazaamed it and found it and been stuck ever since. My cousin reminded me that this is one of my Grandfathers favorite records along with all the other Blues he's put me on. Initially it was the music that caught my ear, not so much the lyrics. As I kept replaying it over and over all weekend, I realized there was more to it for me. I call this the love/engagement song. My best friend just proposed to his Girlfriend over the weekend and listening to this song makes me realize what they mean for each other and also what you should be in a relationship to "Make Yours A Happy Home" =)

Enjoy the Sun- Theophilus London
Simple lyrics, dope music I do just love everyone and just enjoy the sun! Life is too short to be bogged down with worries or frowns.

Sigh No More- Mumford & Sons
Right at the 1:50 mark is where I fall in love with this song!